In our ongoing mission to prove to the world… . or tumblr that women are accurately portrayed in comics and naturally contort themselves into pretzels on a daily basis, we present to you another one of our daily life photos.
Here is what we normally look like when we pay our bills.
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Boys' T-Shirts Promoting Sexual Violence Are Not 'Just Shirts' 
TRIGGER WARNING [Violence Against Women]
Clothing designers are letting the parents of boys get in on the disgust that all us moms of girls have been dealing with lately. We’ve had to contend with t-shirt makers telling our daughters they’re “too pretty” for homework and contending they’re “allergic to algebra.” Now our sons are being offered t-shirts that encourage them to “stop at rape.”
Did you just throw up in your mouth a little bit? The shirt technically urges boys to “Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
“Calm Down Dear, Let’s Not Turn This Rape Into Murder.”
No me gusta. Let’s get a petition going, folks.
oh.
via fuckyeahfeminists
so i’m looking at the jared followill tag
[disclaimer: offensive (sexist) language up ahead.]
and there’s a new online ‘novel’/meme called ‘settle the fuck down.’ there’s a separate tumblr for it and the description is as follows: “A online novel about Jared Followill, and how us, his fans, want him to settle down with a nice lady. No skanks, no hookers, just a nice woman.” you can imagine the amount of side-eyeing i am doing right now. not only do we have to slut-shame other women jared might be seeing, but we have to basically shame jared, as well, for not settling down and for not being with a “nice” woman. what constitutes a “nice” woman? how much sex does a woman have to have to be considered a “skank” or a “hooker”? what makes a woman none of us know worthy or unworthy of our approval? i’m tired of this shaming nonsense. really, really tired of it. and if anyone sees this, i’m sure this post will get eyerolls and people will say i take things to seriously or i’m uptight or i’m a bitch (because using sexism to dismiss sexism is effective or something), but i don’t care right now. i’m used to people doing that stuff to me anymore.
file under: why tracking the jared followill tag is only good for pictures.
When women explain to you — in a calm, nuanced, proportionate way — that there are some contexts in which your advances are less likely to be well-received than others, and you respond by sticking your fingers in your ears and screaming about ball-busting, man-hating feminists who are hell-bent on eradicating all flirting and sex and eroding your First Amendment right to proposition any woman at any time and place? When you resist hearing that hitting on a woman who’s alone in an elevator in a strange city at four o’clock in the morning is not likely to be well-received, that it’s likely to be perceived as a potential threat, and that you are likely to be perceived as an insensitive clod at best if you do it? When we explain ten times, a hundred times, a thousand times, that elevators are well-documented as a common place for women to get raped and that it’s therefore not an appropriate place to make sexual advances — and you still reply, “But I don’t understand what the problem is with elevators”?
I have to assume that getting laid is not the point.
I have to assume that the point is something entirely different. I have to assume that you will do anything to resist hearing that women experience male advances in a very different context from the way men experience female advances. I have to assume that you have an active resistance to understanding that women’s experiences are different from men’s: that (among other things) women routinely get our professional/ intellectual/ artistic accomplishments dismissed in favor of a focus on our sexual attractiveness, and that women have to be seriously cautious about physical and sexual violence from men. When you are so vehemently unwilling to see some of the ways that privilege works in your favor, I have to assume that maintaining privilege is the point.
An awesome article about feminism in general, and about feminism’s intersection with other ideological movements (in this case, atheim in specific.) Via hecatedemeter (via grrrlvirus)(Source: darthbiscuit)
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and yet i'm supposed to? fuck that.
- my dad: god, girl, you need to shave your legs.
- me: umm... when was the last time you shaved your legs?
- my dad: i'm not supposed to.
in regards to nathan followill vs ryan murphy
specifically, in regards to this recent development.
yeah, it’s gonna be one of those posts, so feel free to scroll on by if you’re done hearing about it. i’ll understand both because i know so many people are talking about it and because i know my one blog in the sea of tumblr blogs is really not that important.
that being said, here we go.
dear nathan followill,
thanks a whole lot for your classic non-apology wherein you state how sorry you are that your words got “misconstrued” as misogynistic and homophobic. the fact is that, despite the amount of jest you put into writing those words (“get a manicure, buy a new bra”), they were sexist and homophobic. there was no misconstruction there, and quite frankly, as a queer woman, i find the willingness and ease with which you (and oh so many other guys, so at the very least, i can’t really target just you when it comes to casual sexism and homophobia) brush your problematic language off as just a misunderstanding to be really insulting. you may like to think of yourself as “so not that kind of person,” as in the kind of person who’s sexist and homophobic and therefore very hurtful toward others, but that’s exactly the sort of person you were when you played on the “girly gay guy” and the “go do something girly, you angry girl/gay guy” tropes. until you understand that, you will always be “that kind of person” and your “apology” will always be empty.
believe me, i know just as well as you and plenty of other people that ryan murphy is a douche who thinks too much of his own show. not to mention, books could be written on the amounts of sexism, racism, transphobia, homophobia, fatphobia, ableism, and damn near every type of -ism/-phobia out there that has been put on display on those episodes of glee. so what i don’t want to do is let him off the hook for bullshit that he’s allowed on that show. and i don’t want to let him off the hook for being really petty that you guys in kings of leon turned down the chance for glee to use the band’s music, especially since it’s your music and you have the right to say “no” and he just needs to be respectful of that.
however, he called you out on your homophobic language, and it was a valid call-out. and hell yeah, i’m sitting here and calling you out on it, too. knowing how these things go, it’s probably a long-shot that seeing a bunch of people be really disappointed and pissed off at your remarks and calling you out on them will legitimately teach you much in the long-run. the idealistic side of me hopes that you’ll see the negative reactions and then be more considerate of how you choose to call people out in public for being petty, especially since i like to think of you as a generally considerate guy. but the realistic side of me feels like, as generally considerate and as cool of a guy as you can be, you won’t really learn anything about problematic aspects of your language and how it impacts people lacking certain privileges you have. but i’ll be damned if i let some sexist and homophobic shit fly, and i’ll be damned if i completely lose my last ounces of optimism.
so please, look at the negative reactions to your comments that you’re getting and reconsider how you choose to strike people, and reconsider how you react when you get called out. “i’m sorry you were offended” (or, sorry you misconstrued my words~) = shitty. “i’m sorry i was misogynistic, homophobic, and hurtful to people” = considerate. it wouldn’t make everything totally okay, but at least you would look like less of an asshole.
love (yes, even still),
nicole.
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